About RESCET™ 

Lauren and Ayelet met through their children, who became fast friends at the age of three. Years later, both found themselves facing the unraveling of their marriages, each navigating a similar landscape of uncertainty, exhaustion, and grief.

Ayelet and Doron attended a pre-suit mediation with a dear and trusted attorney. When Ayelet and her husband, Doron, separately sought advice from divorce attorneys, one lawyer told Doron, who was considering a new marriage therapist, “Face it. Your marriage is over.” He meant well. Divorce lawyers get you divorced; they do not help you understand what broke or how to move through it. They also do not carry the emotional or financial fallout that families do. 

In one of those moments, Ayelet said to Lauren, “This is so dehumanizing. I just want someone to shake us into seeing one another. What if there were a better way to do this?” 

While Ayelet and Doron could sense they were being pulled toward an adversarial system that would inflame conflict long before resolving it, Lauren had managed to navigate her own divorce with empathy and clarity. Drawing from her years as a family litigator, she found a way to separate peacefully, focusing on understanding rather than blame. She still describes her ex-husband as “a mensch.” Lauren realized that years in family litigation had given her the insight to approach her own divorce peacefully, by bringing down the temperature, remembering that every person has their own story, listening for the “why,” and focusing on what matters most.

With the help of the very therapist that lawyer had dismissed, Ayelet and Doron found their way back to one another and to a deeper understanding than they had ever known. As Esther Perel says, “Most of us will have four or five different marriages in our lifetime. Hopefully most of them are to the same person.” Had Doron listened to that attorney, their story would have ended differently.

Over many late-night conversations, RESCET™ was born. It is not a process to stay or to leave, but a way to move through relational change with honesty, intelligence, and respect. Some people divorce. Some do not. But however it unfolds, let us do it properly. That is what RESCET™ is about.